Gift buying
As I mentioned in other posts I’ve been working since I’m 16 years old and when I graduated high school I’ve been working full time…I’ve never been without work. Now since having a baby I’ve been a SAHM and love it…and I know how very lucky I am to be able to stay home. At Christmas time a fill-in job came up so I did work for 3 days to make some money to buy my husband his Christmas gifts. His birthday is in April & there doesn’t seem to any fill-in jobs available.
The reason for this post is I’m wondering what stay at home moms do when their husband’s (boyfriend’s or significant other’s) birthday, Christmas & Father’s Day comes? I feel funny using our bank account to buy him gifts when he’s the one that put all the money in there.
I know our job is much harder than their job & more rewarding than money but, when it comes down to it buying gifts require money & that’s the only thing being a SAHM does not give.
So what do you Stay At Home Moms do when it comes to buying your Husband/Boyfriend/Significant Other gifts?
I’m a SAHM also, since last October. We use our joint bank account, well…jointly. Even though he’s technically the only one contributing to it, there’s an understanding that my work is valuable also (as you said), and so I pull from our account just like I did when I was still working.
Having said that, there are some “rules” in place, and have been even since before we had a baby. We agree not to spend more than a set amount without first checking with the other. That means that if there’s something I really want him to have, I’ll say to him, “There’s a gift I want to buy you, but it’s more than $xxx. Are we okay with my doing that?”
I totally understand what you’re saying, because I struggle with this right after our daughter was born, but have slowly come to terms with how much I contribute to our family, even if it’s not financially.
My hubby’s b-day is in April too
We’ve never seen it as his money and that I’m spending it on a gift for him. I’ve never even thought twice about the fact that it’s technically his money. Now with 3 kids we don’t end up doing much for our birthday’s anyway. 